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WHAT ARE THE TOP ISSUES?

Top 3 Issues for Women

In writing Babyproofing Your Marriage we asked hundreds of women how having kids has impacted their marriages. Most of them, no matter how happy they were with their growing families, said there were a few things they'd like their husbands to know. Here are their top three:

#1 The Ten O' Clock Shoulder Tap

All over the country exhausted wives are subjected to The Tap - considered by many men to be a form of foreplay, considered by most women to be anything but.

"Here it comes...the paw! Does he think that's a turn-on? He does jack s#*t to help me out, then expects me to take care of him? We hadn't even had a conversation! What am I, a 7-Eleven? Open for business at his convenience?" - Janet, married 8 years, 2 kids

"I wish my husband knew how tired I am after dealing with the kids. Sex is the last thing on my mind. I'm barely functioning and he's standing there at the end of the day, tapping his foot and looking at his watch." - Jennifer, married 9 years, 3 kids

#2 He Just Doesn't Get It

Another source of many wives' frustration: "My husband just doesn't get it!" "It" being the phenomenal workload, the pressure to be supermom, and the need for a domestic partner, not a helper. Do you feel like your life drastically changed when you had a baby while your husband just took a couple of days off from work? You are not alone.

"In the early days, my husband would come home with comments like, 'Why don't you just nap when the baby naps?' or even better, 'My mom had kids. Your mom had kids. Why does this seem so much harder for you? I mean, c'mon, it's just one baby. What's the big deal?'" - Kara, married 6 years, 3 kids

"Why am I the only one in the house who knows where the pacifier, wipes and sippy cups are? Where the hell has he been living for the last three years?" - Rachel, married 6 years, 2 kids

"What does he want a gold star for emptying the dishwasher?" - Elizabeth, married 4 years, 1 kid

#3 The Mom Pie

Women often feel that there is not just enough of themselves to go around. With each additional child, everyone gets a smaller piece of The Mom Pie. Of course, there's also that big person lurking around the house looking for his piece of pie, too.

"Everyone wants a piece of the Mama." - Vicki, married 5 years, 2 kids

"My life is very well balanced if you exclude myself" - Anna, married 6 years, 2 kids