Tag Archives: mother-in-law problems
Q: So to give you a bit of background I have been with my husband for 6 years. My mother-in-law has been bothering me a lot. She says negative/degrading things about my husband and she puts her other son on a … Continue reading
Q. My mother in law is causing me a lot of stress. My husband and I have two children.We have a very loving relationship, a happy marraige and a very happy home. When I returned home after having my second baby, my mother-in-law took over the house. She told my husband to say good bye to me and go stay with his father because he would be no use to me.
Sometimes grandparents have a funny way of welcoming a first grandchild into the fold. Specifically, they fight about it. It’s a battle for dominance. Whose culture and traditions will take hold? Who will win the coveted position as uber-grandma? Continue reading
When women marry and start a family, we envision a loving, respectful adult relationship with our husbands, parents, in-laws, and extended family. For some of us, this is exactly how things unfold.
But, for the rest of us there can be trouble. Big trouble. The arrival of the first baby/grandchild can make the the daughter-in-law/mother-in-law relationship fraught. Continue reading
Q. I live in California and my mother in-law lives in New York, so we don’t see that much of each other. She just sent a gift for our seven month old baby that I think is awful. It’s a hideous looking jack in the box type thing, that has a scary laugh when it jumps out. Continue reading
Q. I’ve never really liked my daughter-in-law. She is a manipulative and spoiled person. A few weeks ago I was at their house to babysit my granddaughter. I took her to the mall for an icecream and got her a haircut – she’s about a year and a half, and really needed a haircut with summer coming. My daughter-in-law was very upset when she saw her daughter and since then I have not been invited back to their house. Continue reading
Have you ever done a Grandparent Audit of your home? Tallied up how many gifts each set has sent or counted the number of photos featuring each one of them? No, of course you haven’t. You have better things to do with your time. But plenty of grandmothers have. They know exactly how much wall and floor space they occupy. And, they now exactly how much is occupied by The Competition. Continue reading
At some level we all know that putting our husband, or wife. or partner above all others is how things are supposed to work. (Hmmm. Wasn’t that a marriage vow? It sounds awfully familiar.) We all want to know that we have top billing in our spouse’s heart. In many ways, when we become parents ourselves prioritizing our new family – that is our spouse and our child – over our original one is the final step into adulthood. Continue reading
Q. I think my husband gets jealous for his mom because she doesn’t get to spend as much time with our daughter as my mom does. Therefore, EVERY weekend we end up having dinner or having his parents come over. Is it selfish of me to be annoyed that I have to share my only time with my family with my MIL? Continue reading
You don’t. Ever. That’s her son’s, that is, your husband’s job. Unless your career experience includes professional hostage negotiator don’t go there with your mother-in-law, no matter how appalling you might think her behavior is. Continue reading