Warning: Your Baby Might Hurt Your Marriage!

The late, and great, Nora Ephron said it best, “Having a baby is like throwing a hand grenade into a marriage.”  Redbook asked us to come up with a list of dangers a baby poses to its parents’ marriage in the first year. Fortunately, we had some solutions for them too. Read about how the sleep deprivation, piles of laundry,...

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Help! My Husband and I Are Fighting Non-Stop Since Our Baby Came

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Q.  I just stumbled across your site while almost weeping with desperation. Our baby girl is 9 weeks old and my husband and I fight nonstop. We are both so into our baby and are madly in love with her. And my husband does a lot … cooking, tidying up our home, picking up groceries etc....

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Sex, Every Day. For A Whole Year. Could You Do It?

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We have an update from that married-with-kids couple who had sex every day for 101 days. Remember Annie and Douglas Brown? They wrote about their marathon bonk-a-thon in "Just Do It: How One Couple Turned Off the TV and Turned On their Sex Lives for 101 Days"

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Help! Husband Says I Think He Can’t Take Care of Our Baby

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Question: I need advice! I’m 30 years old and my husband is 35 we just had our first child 3 months ago. Neither of us had any other children so it is a first for both of us. He is a person that experienced a hard childhood with his father and does not want to be...

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Mother’s Day Gifts: What Your Wife Really Wants

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Chocolates? No. Jewelry? No. Flowers? No. This Mothers Day gift costs practically nothing, and it will make your wife smile for days (and if you do it right, maybe even for years).

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Breastfeeding and Sex: What One Does to the Other

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There are many reasons why our sex drives take a nosedive after a baby arrives. For many women, breast feeding tops the list of passion killers. Yes, our bodies' and, more specifically, our boobs' ability to feed our babies is astounding and beautiful but becoming a milking machine plays havoc in the bedroom. One of our girlfriends spoke for many when she said, "Breast feeding makes me feel like a cow ... not a sexy mama."

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My Husband Is Never Around: Where’s Waldo?

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When my first kid was about three months old I reached my breaking point. I was downright exhausted and needed my husband, Ross, to pick up some slack. (Let me preface this by saying that Ross is a great guy. This happened during the early days of parenting when 'he just didn't get it.') One time, I remember telling him that all I cared about was stepping on some sort of exercise apparatus, improving my overall hygiene, and getting a few hours of shuteye. At the end of the day, he was no where in sight. Where's Waldo? I called him on his cell and of course he said he was on his way shortly. And what did I hear in the background? I could swear it sounded suspiciously like a combination of Golden Tee and a keg being tapped.

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No Sex After Baby? Blame Biology for Your Lost Sex Drive

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There have been times in my life when I have been absolutely astounded by the male sex drive. I was awestruck a couple of months after the birth of our first daughter when Mike attempted to have sex with me. My leaky boobs, matted hair, stooped shoulders, hairy legs, stained bathrobe and – I am pretty sure - stinky breath did not deter him.

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Is Jessica and Eric’s Relationship Ready for Baby?

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Jessica Simpson, who is a few weeks away from giving birth to a baby girl, opened up about her sex life with fiancé Eric Johnson on Ryan Seacrest's radio show. "I am definitely feeling intimate. I'm kind of unstoppable right now." She added that former NFL pro Johnson is definitely game. "He's always ready." Now for the big question - Is Jessica and Eric's overall relationship ready for the baby?

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Dads Are From Mars, Moms Are From Venus: Men and Women Respond Differently to Parenthood

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For many of us, it takes having kids to realize that men and women are completely different animals. It comes as a surprise when, post-baby, men and women respond to parenthood in drastically different ways and start to assume different and not always complementary roles. Hardwired instincts nudge women into the role of nurturers and men into the role of providers. Given that we stepped out of the caves about 8,000 years ago, just a nanosecond in terms of evolutionary psychology, it shouldn’t be surprising that when we become parents our most basic instincts rise to the surface. We find ourselves back in the prehistoric suburbs, where women wonder if baby might be allergic to mammoth and if there are enough wild berries in his diet, and where men stalk buffalo and question whether their hunting abilities will be good enough to get the family through the winter.

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