Just another night in suburbia...
There have been times in my life when I have been absolutely astounded by the male sex drive. I was awestruck a couple of months after the birth of our first daughter when Mike attempted to have sex with me. My leaky boobs, matted hair, stooped shoulders, hairy legs, stained bathrobe and – I am pretty sure - stinky breath did not deter him.
We talked to hundreds of men and asked them about their marriage after kids. Most, if not all, of these men were frustrated about one thing...sex. Read what guys have to say about their unmet sexual needs when they can say it anonymously. All this dialogue comes from a purported “sports fans” website that one of our “traitor” guy friends put us on to (we bleeped out some of the more colorful material): Topic: “Married Men Who M*#*%&%*# ” Bob: Do you make even a modicum of an effort to keep it secret? What I mean is, do you do it when your wife is away, or do you just go ahead and start *#%*ing away in the bedroom knowing full and well (and not caring) that your wife could walk in at any minute?
Mothers of small kids, whether they work or not, often feel that their sense of self is consumed by the roles of cook, chauffeur, cleaner, and toddler entertainer. When sex is added to the list of things that others demand from us, we start to resent it. We start to feel like a rabbit in a cage—a rabbit that is being pursued by an oversexed male rabbit. Run rabbit, run! And when a husband’s idea of foreplay is to use openers like “Hey, it’s been a while . . .” or to say nothing and just give us the Ten O’Clock Shoulder Tap, we want to run even faster. (Cue the "Jaws" theme.)
Check out this article from SheKnows.com by Lisa Steinke. If you're a new parent, you know all too well that life as you once knew it will never be the same. That your marriage will never be the same. That this little life has forever changed you. While most of the changes are good -- make that great -- there are some changes that you didn't exactly welcome with open arms. From sleep deprivation to sex deprivation, it is possible to get your life and marriage back on track. It might be hard to see through the fog right now, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Read on for the ways to get back on track...
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