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		<title>A Love Song for Couples with Kids</title>
		<link>http://www.babyproofingyourmarriage.com/2012/02/a-love-song-for-couples-with-kids/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 22 Feb 2012 05:08:59 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Cathy</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[There is a beautiful Irish ballad called "The Voyage" that is almost always played at wedding anniversary parties in Ireland. When I was young, free and single I never understood why the forty-somethings would get teary-eyed when this song was played. Now that I'm rapidly approaching that age myself, with kids and husband in tow, I get it. This song celebrates the journey that two people who have "coupled their fate" make together and the steadfast determination that it takes to continue when times get tough. To me, this song tells the life-story of those of us married-with-kids.]]></description>
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		<title>The Importance of The Training Weekend &#8211; Mom Gets a Break and Dad Gets a Clue</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 21 Feb 2012 05:20:59 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Stacie</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Division of Labor]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[Yes, we've already posted a video talking about The Mother of All Solutions - The Training Weekend.  Go away for the weekend and leave your husband alone with the baby for 48 hours. No sitters. No in-laws. No cavalry whatsoever. The point is to let him figure things out for himself. He doesn’t get it because he hasn’t done it!  We now want to discuss why it is such an important tool when it comes to babyproofing your marriage.

The benefits of a Training Weekend are many and varied:

Mom gets a break. If Mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy. So give yourself a little girl time or alone time. Everyone, including you, will benefit from your well-rested, recharged self.

“I didn’t know I needed it until I had it. Boy, did I need it!”

—Valerie, married 7 years, 2 kids.

Dad understands. By taking sole charge of all baby- and house-related duties for a weekend, a man will better understand his wife’s challenges and frustrations. He will have the same sink-or-swim experience that she has. If he wants to take shortcuts by not feeding a full meal, or leaving dirty diapers all over the floor, for once, he will have to deal with the consequences. He learns because there’s no other way out. Just a small glimpse into this “real world” will improve your communication level and your ability to work together as a team on the home front.

“I had a list of things I wanted to get done when I had the kids by myself, and I was lucky if half of it got done. I didn’t shower and I didn’t shave. I could barely hold things together. It gave me an enormous appreciation for what my wife does. This was eight years ago and I remember it like it was yesterday.”

—George, married 13 years, 2 kids.

“I had no idea taking care of a baby was so hard. How does she do this day in and day out? I was truly in awe of her when she got back.”

—Brandon, married 3 years, 1 kid.
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		<title>Married With Kids: Are You a Dying Breed?</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 18 Feb 2012 18:11:11 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Cathy</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Life Balance]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Newborn Stage]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[New York Times women under 30 most births occur outside marriage]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[The New York Times reports today that "after steadily rising for five decades, the share of children born to unmarried women has crossed a threshold: more than half of births to American women under 30 occur outside marriage." The article is a depressing one, sharing stories of women whose children are by-products of uncommitted relationships fathered by men who, as one woman puts it she wouldn't consider marrying because life with him was "like living with another kid." One wonders why, if that was the case, she considered even having sex with him. But let's not delve into that can of worms, that's a topic for another day, another blog. ]]></description>
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		<title>How to Get Your Marriage Out of Autopilot</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 17 Feb 2012 12:37:47 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Cathy</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.babyproofingyourmarriage.com/?p=1376</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[If you have kids your marriage might be on autopilot; because once they enter the picture, it’s all too easy to neglect your relationship. There is just so much to do, and marriage is one of the few things we can ignore without immediate and dire consequences. If we ignore our job, we’ll get fired. If we ignore our kids, they’ll starve. But if we ignore our relationship, our spouse can live off the scraps for a pretty long time. ]]></description>
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		<title>How Jay Z and Beyonce Can Baby Proof Their Marriage</title>
		<link>http://www.babyproofingyourmarriage.com/2012/02/how-jay-z-and-beyonce-can-baby-proof-their-marriage-making-family-the-priority/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 16 Feb 2012 04:59:48 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Stacie</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.babyproofingyourmarriage.com/?p=1292</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Jay Z and Beyonce just tweeted pictures of each of them holding little Blue Ivy Carter.  And the pictures say it all.  They are truly beaming with pride and joy over their beautiful baby girl.  A huge congratulations to them!  Those of us who have also passed over to the other side know these feelings of overwhelming love and fulfillment as we hold our newborn baby.  We also know that, right now, Jay Z and Beyonce are essentially in the honeymoon stage of parenthood.  Once they have a few weeks of caring for a newborn under their belt, the king and queen of hip-hop, like any new parents, need to baby proof their marriage.

Parenthood changes everything.  Here are just a few of examples:
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		<title>Valentines Fun with Your Husband &#8230; Even When Your Kids are Around</title>
		<link>http://www.babyproofingyourmarriage.com/2012/02/valentines-fun-with-your-husband-even-when-your-kids-are-around/</link>
		<comments>http://www.babyproofingyourmarriage.com/2012/02/valentines-fun-with-your-husband-even-when-your-kids-are-around/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 14 Feb 2012 18:47:24 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Cathy</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Life Balance]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.babyproofingyourmarriage.com/?p=1327</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Our children might just be the ultimate romance-busters. There's nothing sexy about a landscape littered with plastic toys, balls and sippy cups. Light a candle and your two-year old will take a dive at it; wear a sexy top and it will be barfed on, or at best, be mauled by tiny sticky hands.  But, don't throw in the towel just yet. Take back Valentines Day and have those pint-sized mood-killers join in the fun.]]></description>
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		<title>From SheKnows.com: New Parents &#8211; How to Get Your Groove Back</title>
		<link>http://www.babyproofingyourmarriage.com/2012/02/from-sheknows-com-new-parents-how-to-get-your-groove-back/</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 13 Feb 2012 18:42:16 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Stacie</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Division of Labor]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[Check out this article from SheKnows.com by Lisa Steinke.

If you're a new parent, you know all too well that life as you once knew it will never be the same. That your marriage will never be the same. That this little life has forever changed you. While most of the changes are good -- make that great -- there are some changes that you didn't exactly welcome with open arms.

From sleep deprivation to sex deprivation, it is possible to get your life and marriage back on track. It might be hard to see through the fog right now, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Read on for the ways to get back on track...
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		<title>What Your Wife Really Wants for Valentine&#8217;s Day</title>
		<link>http://www.babyproofingyourmarriage.com/2012/02/what-your-wife-really-wants-for-valentines-day/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 11 Feb 2012 17:48:08 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Cathy</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[ 

Chocolates?

No.

Jewelry?

No.

Flowers?

No.

This Valentine's gift costs practically nothing, and it will make your wife smile for days (and if you do it right, maybe even for years).]]></description>
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		<title>The Clash of the Grannies</title>
		<link>http://www.babyproofingyourmarriage.com/2012/02/the-clash-of-the-grannies/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 10 Feb 2012 03:57:34 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Cathy</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[In-laws]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[Have you ever done a Grandparent Audit of your home? Tallied up how many gifts each set has sent or counted the number of photos featuring each one of them? No, of course you haven’t. You have better things to do with your time. But plenty of grandmothers have. They know exactly how much wall and floor space they occupy. And, they now exactly how much is occupied by The Competition.]]></description>
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		<title>Scorekeeping Confessions</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 09 Feb 2012 04:00:53 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Stacie</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Scorekeeping, the endless tit-for-tat over who's working harder, who has it tougher.  Does this sound familiar?  “I paid all the bills, bought a birthday present for your mother, read Goodnight Moon five times, took four six-year-olds to Chuck-E-Cheese . . . and that was just Tuesday. . . .”  “Excuse me, but did I not make the kids breakfast every morning last week, including the morning it made me late for my presentation, when I really should have gone in early? And I picked up the dry cleaning without being asked, and I did bath duty three times last week. What more do you want?”

The three of us have at one time or another been serious scorekeepers. We’re not proud to admit it, but there you have it. We each had different styles and our own way of letting our husbands know the score. Notice we are using the past tense. That is somewhat aspirational, but we have improved enormously and we’re still working on it. Meet the Silent Sulker, the Quarterly Exploder, and Exacto Woman:
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