Warning: Your Baby Might Hurt Your Marriage!

The late, and great, Nora Ephron said it best, “Having a baby is like throwing a hand grenade into a marriage.”  Redbook asked us to come up with a list of dangers a baby poses to its parents’ marriage in the first year. Fortunately, we had some solutions for them too. Read about how the sleep deprivation, piles of laundry,...

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Fighting Over The Grandbaby

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Sometimes grandparents have a funny way of welcoming a first grandchild into the fold. Specifically, they fight about it. It's a battle for dominance. Whose culture and traditions will take hold? Who will win the coveted position as uber-grandma?

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New Baby: What Every Dad Needs to Know

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Most new Dads fall somewhere in the middle between the “everything but breastfeeding” brigade and the “proud to have never changed a diaper” crew. For the majority of new Dads who are clueless, but eager to get their hands dirty (both figuratively and literally) here is our Basic Competency List, or What Every Self-Respecting Dad Should Know How to Do

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It’s Your Baby, But it’s Her Grandchild. Make Peace With Your Mother-in-Law.

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When women marry and start a family, we envision a loving, respectful adult relationship with our husbands, parents, in-laws, and extended family. For some of us, this is exactly how things unfold. But, for the rest of us there can be trouble. Big trouble. The arrival of the first baby/grandchild can make the the daughter-in-law/mother-in-law relationship fraught.

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Hillary Duff’s Marriage Advice for New Moms

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Hillary Duff and her husband, Mike Comrie recently became new parents. Hillary has been a mother for less than a month but she has more insight and self-awareness than I had after six (OK, twelve) months of motherhood!

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Breastfeeding and Sex: What One Does to the Other

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There are many reasons why our sex drives take a nosedive after a baby arrives. For many women, breast feeding tops the list of passion killers. Yes, our bodies' and, more specifically, our boobs' ability to feed our babies is astounding and beautiful but becoming a milking machine plays havoc in the bedroom. One of our girlfriends spoke for many when she said, "Breast feeding makes me feel like a cow ... not a sexy mama."

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New Moms and Dads: Dads Are from Mars, Moms Are from Venus

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After living much of our pre-parenthood lives as relative equals, it comes as a surprise when, post-baby, men and women start to assume different and not always complementary roles. Our instincts nudge women into the role of nurturers and men into the role of providers. When we become parents our most basic instincts rise to the surface. We find ourselves back in the prehistoric suburbs, where women wonder if baby might be allergic to mammoth and if there are enough wild berries in his diet, and where men stalk buffalo and question whether their hunting abilities will be good enough to get the family through the winter. It's like our brains get completely rewired, running two separate "his and her" programs, but for good reason. Both programs are equally important for the survival and well-being of the baby. She focuses on the micro, the day-to-day development of the baby, while he focuses on the macro, providing food and shelter for the baby. In simple terms, she has The Mommy Chip, while he has Provider Panic.

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No Sex After Baby? Blame Biology for Your Lost Sex Drive

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There have been times in my life when I have been absolutely astounded by the male sex drive. I was awestruck a couple of months after the birth of our first daughter when Mike attempted to have sex with me. My leaky boobs, matted hair, stooped shoulders, hairy legs, stained bathrobe and – I am pretty sure - stinky breath did not deter him.

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Who Should Get Up at Night With Your Newborn? Playing Midnight Chicken

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During the newborn stage, new parents resort to all manner of fun and games to keep themselves amused during this difficult time. One of our personal favorites is called Midnight Chicken, also known as Who Will Blink First? It goes something like this: It’s 3:00 a.m. The baby is awake (again) and crying (again). You are both awake. You both hear her. But nobody moves. Women are tacitly calling in their chit (Surely he knows it’s his turn this time?), but men, the masters of this game, simply play dead (maybe they throw in a little snoring).

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Is Jessica and Eric’s Relationship Ready for Baby?

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Jessica Simpson, who is a few weeks away from giving birth to a baby girl, opened up about her sex life with fiancé Eric Johnson on Ryan Seacrest's radio show. "I am definitely feeling intimate. I'm kind of unstoppable right now." She added that former NFL pro Johnson is definitely game. "He's always ready." Now for the big question - Is Jessica and Eric's overall relationship ready for the baby?

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