Q: I had dated my husband for almost 7 years before we were married...I would have died for him. He would walk out my door to go to work and I would cry thinking something tragic may happen to him. Now, married for 5 years, with a 3 year old, I feel like he barely exists. I wonder, how can I place a child in front of someone whom I would die/kill/crawl in the coffin for??? My daughter is the only one I live and breathe for now...is that normal??? My mother, who was a mother of 5, told me, "never neglect your husband, because your children always grow up and leave you...take care of your man." But now it's seems that I don't even care about him...is that normal?

A: Yes, you are completely normal. The mother instinct is quite powerful. It’s like we have a Mommy Chip in our brains, and once we give birth, it’s activated and runs 24/7. And we can never shut the damn thing off.! Nature compels us to nurture our babies to the exclusion of (almost) everything else, which can include our husbands! But one thing is for sure, your mother is 100% right...

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