Category Archives: Division of Labor
Q. I tried your “Training Weekend”. I went away for a weekend in hopes of showing my husband just how my day goes when he is away, but he just packed up baby and himself and headed to his parents for the entire weekend. Continue reading
Q. My husband and I are constantly fighting. We fight about who gets up when, who is going to get the baby – day or night. We fight about who has done what, who has cleaned what, who’s more tired, etc. He doesn’t understand that I can barely get anything done during the day by myself … Continue reading
Q: He walked in last night and asked, wait for it…, “Why is this place always such a mess? The least you could do is clean up around here.” I’m more hurt than angry. He never, ever used to say things like that. I don’t want to tell my girlfriends about it because I’m embarrassed. He sounds like a chauvinist. I don’t want people to think that about him, but maybe he is. Since I quit my job he’s always making cracks about the state of the house. I don’t get it. He never cared about that stuff when I was working. I guess on some level, they want it all. The housekeeper, the stripper, the mommy, and the career woman. Help!
A: You are wondering, what does my husband expect from me? You both agreed that you are staying home for the baby, so you ask yourself, why isn’t he respecting my new role? Then it hits you. He just doesn’t get it – he doesn’t understand how hard it is to take care of the baby and the house. Right? What you are experiencing is Whiplash, a sense of the modern woman in you hopping on a time machine and hurtling back to the 1950s. What’s more, it can feel like your husband is pushing the button!
Q: I am not exaggerating here, but my husband is a complete SLOB. I asked him out on our 1st date and he answered the door with a mop, so I assumed he knew how to clean. Um, no.
We have a 16 month old, and I have a 9 and 10 year old from a previous marriage. I clean up WAY more than I should be. When I ask my kids to clean their room, they do. They know NOT to shed their toys/books/clothes anywhere but their rooms.