Help! My Husband and I Are Fighting Non-Stop Since Our Baby Came

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Q.  I just stumbled across your site while almost weeping with desperation. Our baby girl is 9 weeks old and my husband and I fight nonstop. We are both so into our baby and are madly in love with her. And my husband does a lot … cooking, tidying up our home, picking up groceries etc....

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Sex: Frustrated Husband Wants His Wife to Want Sex

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Q. Sex is not on her radar – Help! The whole thing really seems like such a weird joke civilized society plays on us. And ladies, many of us men understand the issues but that doesn't help eliminate our libidos. Bottom line to me is; if there was a pill I could take that would inhibit my sex drive without inhibiting the other necessary benefits of Testosterone, I would take it in an instant.

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No Sex After Baby? Blame Biology for Your Lost Sex Drive

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There have been times in my life when I have been absolutely astounded by the male sex drive. I was awestruck a couple of months after the birth of our first daughter when Mike attempted to have sex with me. My leaky boobs, matted hair, stooped shoulders, hairy legs, stained bathrobe and – I am pretty sure - stinky breath did not deter him.

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My Husband Looks at Porn. Is He Not Attracted to Me Anymore?

Q: I have a 2 year old boy. Since he was born, my sex life has changed. Sometimes, we don’t do it for weeks. My husband is into pornography now. Is he not interested in me anymore?

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My Wife Says “Not Tonight” Every Night

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Q: In your book, "Babyproofing Your Marriage", you all talk about the "Hourglass" that seems to get turned over when the husband asks for sex and is told "Not tonight." The idea is that if the request is not satisfied within the next 24 hours then the hubby's foot starts tapping as he looks at his watch. On one hand, I can see why it would be very annoying for a mom to have a request for sex come out of the blue and then be subjected to some kind of time pressure to get it done within the next X number of days in order to prevent a fight. On the other hand, speaking as a dad, it is also frustrating to have your wife say "Not tonight" and then leave it at that for days on end. I know from experience with my wife that if I ask her for sex on Monday and she says "No", if I ask again within the next couple of days she will get annoyed and tell me that I am obsessing about sex.

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