Monthly Archives: May 2012
How much sex do the married parents of small kids have? What’s average?
“I’m scoring like a third-rate British soccer team—once every fifth Sunday.”
—Peter, married 8 years, 3 kids
Mothers of small kids, whether they work or not, often feel that their sense of self is consumed by the roles of cook, chauffeur, cleaner, and toddler entertainer. When sex is added to the list of things that others demand from us, we start to resent it. We start to feel like a rabbit in a cage—a rabbit that is being pursued by an oversexed male rabbit. Run rabbit, run!
When a husband’s idea of foreplay is to use openers like “Hey, it’s been a while . . .” or to say nothing and just give us the Ten O’Clock Shoulder Tap, we want to run…fast. (Cue the “Jaws” theme.)
“Everyone wants a piece of the Mama.”
—Vicki, married 5 years, 2 kids
Did-Enough Dads – These are the Dads who do just enough to get by. Domestic Shortcuts (skipping baths and teeth brushing) are Standard Operating Procedure, and they make liberal use of Convenience Cards (TV, McDonald’s, 1-800-Grandma).
Most of us find ourselves hopping on the extreme parenting locomotive, and that train is just not slowing down. Birthday parties with handmade goodie bags, play dates, volunteering, sports, school carnivals, doctors appointments, email, voicemail, text messages, activities, more activities, more more more…it just goes on and on. We get caught up in the pressurized societal vortex which makes parenting much harder than it should be.
Most new Dads fall somewhere in the middle between the “everything but breastfeeding” brigade and the “proud to have never changed a diaper” crew. For the majority of new Dads who are clueless, but eager to get their hands dirty (both figuratively and literally) here is our Basic Competency List, or What Every Self-Respecting Dad Should Know How to Do Continue reading
It’s about that time. We are all planning our family vacations for the summer. Mom, get that huge diaper bag overflowing with diapers, bottles and cheerios ready. Dad, get ready to be the family pack mule.
Ahhh, the family vacation. Fun in the sun? Absolutely. A little R and R? Not quite. A family vacation is not quite a vacation. It’s a Schlep-Fest. We work just as hard, if not harder, than when we’re at home; doing it in a different place. Often, we return home exhausted, minus the beloved blankie a child can’t sleep without, and sometimes, barely on speaking terms with our spouse. Why?