Monthly Archives: March 2012

New Moms and Dads: Dads Are from Mars, Moms Are from Venus

After living much of our pre-parenthood lives as relative equals, it comes as a surprise when, post-baby, men and women start to assume different and not always complementary roles. Our instincts nudge women into the role of nurturers and men into the role of providers. When we become parents our most basic instincts rise to the surface. We find ourselves back in the prehistoric suburbs, where women wonder if baby might be allergic to mammoth and if there are enough wild berries in his diet, and where men stalk buffalo and question whether their hunting abilities will be good enough to get the family through the winter.

It’s like our brains get completely rewired, running two separate “his and her” programs, but for good reason. Both programs are equally important for the survival and well-being of the baby. She focuses on the micro, the day-to-day development of the baby, while he focuses on the macro, providing food and shelter for the baby.

In simple terms, she has The Mommy Chip, while he has Provider Panic.
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No Sex After Baby? Blame Biology for Your Lost Sex Drive

There have been times in my life when I have been absolutely astounded by the male sex drive. I was awestruck a couple of months after the birth of our first daughter when Mike attempted to have sex with me. My leaky boobs, matted hair, stooped shoulders, hairy legs, stained bathrobe and – I am pretty sure – stinky breath did not deter him. Continue reading

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Mother-in-Law Sends Awful Gifts to My Son

Q. I live in California and my mother in-law lives in New York, so we don’t see that much of each other. She just sent a gift for our seven month old baby that I think is awful. It’s a hideous looking jack in the box type thing, that has a scary laugh when it jumps out. Continue reading

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Who Should Get Up at Night With Your Newborn? Playing Midnight Chicken

During the newborn stage, new parents resort to all manner of fun and games to keep themselves amused during this difficult time. One of our personal favorites is called Midnight Chicken, also known as Who Will Blink First? It goes something like this: It’s 3:00 a.m. The baby is awake (again) and crying (again). You are both awake. You both hear her. But nobody moves. Women are tacitly calling in their chit (Surely he knows it’s his turn this time?), but men, the masters of this game, simply play dead (maybe they throw in a little snoring). Continue reading

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Is Jessica and Eric’s Relationship Ready for Baby?

Jessica Simpson, who is a few weeks away from giving birth to a baby girl, opened up about her sex life with fiancé Eric Johnson on Ryan Seacrest’s radio show.

“I am definitely feeling intimate. I’m kind of unstoppable right now.” She added that former NFL pro Johnson is definitely game. “He’s always ready.”

Now for the big question – Is Jessica and Eric’s overall relationship ready for the baby?
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Caring for a Newborn: Welcome to The Twilight Zone

This period is short, but it can be savage. As new parents, we often experience fear, extreme sleep deprivation and cluelessness. We wind up bickering more than ever before. It’s like we just entered The Twilight Zone. Why? The answer is simple. There is a newborn in the house.
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My Husband Looks at Porn. Is He Not Attracted to Me Anymore?

Q: I have a 2 year old boy. Since he was born, my sex life has changed. Sometimes, we don’t do it for weeks. My husband is into pornography now. Is he not interested in me anymore? Continue reading

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From Sheknows.com: Have You Babyproofed Your Marriage?

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Sex: Frustrated Married Men Who Take Matters into Their Own Hands

We talked to hundreds of men and asked them about their marriage after kids. Most, if not all, of these men were frustrated about one thing…sex.

Read what guys have to say about their unmet sexual needs when they can say it anonymously. All this dialogue comes from a purported “sports fans” website that one of our “traitor” guy friends put us on to (we bleeped out some of the more colorful material):

Topic: “Married Men Who M*#*%&%*# ”

Bob: Do you make even a modicum of an effort to keep it secret? What I mean is, do you do it when your wife is away, or do you just go ahead and start *#%*ing away in the bedroom knowing full and well (and not caring) that your wife could walk in at any minute?
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Dennis Quaid Divorce: Another Couple That Didn’t Babyproof?

Last month, as I was eating dinner at a new restaurant in Austin called Eleven Plates, I noticed Dennis Quaid and his wife, Kimberly Buffington-Quaid, talking to one of the servers at the bar. I don’t usually stare at celebrities, but in this instance, I couldn’t take my eyes off them. Dennis looked unhappy, withdrawn, almost defeated. Kimberly looked like she was trying to make an effort, but still seemed sad underneath it all. As they slowly walked out the door, I couldn’t help but wonder, why did they look so miserable? Did they have a bad meal? Were they unhappy with their service? But it was so much more than that. Then it hit me. With two young children, four-year-old twins, at home, they are no doubt going through the toughest stage in a marriage. Maybe they’re having marital problems?

Fast-forward a few weeks, and here we are reading the headline: Dennis Quaid’s Wife Files for Divorce. According to court papers, Buffington-Quaid says she is filing for divorce because things have “become insupportable because of discord or conflict of personalities.” Are they, yet, another Babyproofing casualty?
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