Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie have previously said they would not get married unless everyone could legally marry, but it seems as though they are having a change of heart. In an interview with The Hollywood Reporter, Pitt responded to a question about marriage by saying, “We’d actually like to and it seems to mean more and more to our kids. We made this declaration some time ago that we weren’t going to do it till everyone can. But I don’t think we’ll be able to hold out. It means so much to my kids, and they ask a lot. And it means something to me, too, to make that kind of commitment.” In another interview, with CBS Sunday Morning, Pitt said the kids have been telling him, “Get Mommy a ring,” and he finally promised, “Ok, I will, I will!” It seems as though their kids have an idea of what they want their family to look like.
So what does the “perfect family” look like? We all know that there really isn’t some pie in the sky, ideal family structure or arrangement out there. We never want to imply that there is one. Happy well-balanced kids can come from all different family backgrounds, however, what do kids typically want and why?
According to the The Future of Children: Fragile Families journal written by The Woodrow Wilson School of Public and International Affairs at Princeton Universityand The Brookings Institution, simply put, “stable, two parent homes have greater…emotional resources to support their children’s development. And…marriage has the greatest chance of achieving relationship stability which leads to stability for children.”
Kids don’t need to read some fancy report from Princeton to come to this conclusion. Just think back to your own childhood. Let’s start with the holidays. What did you care most about? Getting Steve Austin, The Six Million Dollar Man, for Christmas (We may be dating ourselves! Maybe you come from the Tickle Me Elmo, Beanie Babies, Cabbage Patch era?), or reading ‘Twas the Night Before Christmas with your parents? OK, you wanted Steve Austin (or Elmo), but what do you remember now, as an adult? It’s the vague “we all made cookies and went to Aunt Betty’s and had a big family dinner” memories you treasure. Now think about what you really wanted from your parents in general. Getting $50 from Mom and Dad so you can buy your favorite pair of jeans, or spending quality time with them at the bowling alley? Again, it’s spending that quality time with family that trumps a pair of Calvin Kleins. And finally, what was the icing on the cake? That your parents actually showed some affection toward each other. Witnessing that occasional hug and kiss gave you that inner feeling of security and love. Those are all the experiences that gave you the security and warm inner glow you needed to grow up into the fine human being you are today. The time you spend together as a close knit family doing a thousand inconsequential things is what culminates in a meaningful childhood for a kid.
So it comes as no surprise that the famous brood of six, Maddox, Pax, Zahara, Shiloh, Knox and Vivienne, want their parents to make a stronger commitment. They want that foundation to give them that sense of security. So the more Brad and Angelina prioritize their relationship, the more their kids will feel like they are in a loving stable home. Happy committed parents equals happy kids.
So, the question becomes, will Brad actually put a ring on it?
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