Monthly Archives: December 2011

My Husband is a Complete Slob!

Q: I am not exaggerating here, but my husband is a complete SLOB. I asked him out on our 1st date and he answered the door with a mop, so I assumed he knew how to clean. Um, no.

We have a 16 month old, and I have a 9 and 10 year old from a previous marriage. I clean up WAY more than I should be. When I ask my kids to clean their room, they do. They know NOT to shed their toys/books/clothes anywhere but their rooms.
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The Training Weekend: The Mother of All Solutions

This patent-pending, marriage altering solution is guaranteed to bring you both some perspective and mutual understanding (and hopefully a few laughs as well). Continue reading

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How to Have More Sex: Stop Trying to Have a Perfect House

Damn you, Martha Stewart! One of the reasons moms have less time and energy for sex is because we let the household cr@p drain us. Lazy Moms have more sex. They’ve got more energy for it. Are you more concerned with the state of your kitchen closets than the state of your sex life? What would be better for you … a trip to the Container Store or a session in the bedroom with your husband? Continue reading

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Advice: Who comes first, my child or my husband?

Q: I had dated my husband for almost 7 years before we were married…I would have died for him. He would walk out my door to go to work and I would cry thinking something tragic may happen to him. Now, married for 5 years, with a 3 year old, I feel like he barely exists. I wonder, how can I place a child in front of someone whom I would die/kill/crawl in the coffin for??? My daughter is the only one I live and breathe for now…is that normal??? My mother, who was a mother of 5, told me, “never neglect your husband, because your children always grow up and leave you…take care of your man.” But now it’s seems that I don’t even care about him…is that normal?

A: Yes, you are completely normal. The mother instinct is quite powerful. It’s like we have a Mommy Chip in our brains, and once we give birth, it’s activated and runs 24/7. And we can never shut the damn thing off.! Nature compels us to nurture our babies to the exclusion of (almost) everything else, which can include our husbands! But one thing is for sure, your mother is 100% right…

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My Mother-in-Law Visits Every Weekend. Help!

Q. I think my husband gets jealous for his mom because she doesn’t get to spend as much time with our daughter as my mom does. Therefore, EVERY weekend we end up having dinner or having his parents come over. Is it selfish of me to be annoyed that I have to share my only time with my family with my MIL? Continue reading

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I Have a Newborn and I am Exhausted, But My Husband Works Late

Q: My husband works late and has to work a lot of weekends. I don’t sleep at night because I’m on red alert that the baby is going to wake up. I don’t know how much longer I can keep going at this pace – I don’t even have the energy to care about my marriage. Tell me I’m not alone.

A:  You are definitely not alone!  What you are describing is very common once you bring a baby home!  What you need is 8 hours of shut-eye.  That’s the only way you can charge your battery.  Now’s the time to sit down with your husband, and figure out a plan so you can sleep through the night at least once a week…

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What Your Husband Wants: A Little Enthusiasm in the Bedroom

We’ve all been there. Exhausted and not feeling remotely sexy. But it’s been a while so when you’re husband makes a move you say, “OK”. You might even say “OK, if you really want to …” It turns out, though, that as far as our men are concerned this “grin and bear it” approach to sex can actually be worse than saying “no”. A man can feel rejected even if – and amazingly, while- his wife is having sex with him… Continue reading

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